Loss & Grief

Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process. The reasons for grief are many, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of health, or the letting go of a long-held dream. Dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in a person’s life.

It is important to note that the grief process is not linear, but is more often experienced in cycles. Being patient with the process and allowing yourself to experience your unique feelings about the loss can help. If you feel stuck in your grief, talking to a counselor or a supportive person may help you move forward in the healing process.

If you are experiencing loss or grief, use the resources below or contact a counselor for help:

Types of Loss

Loss of a close friend
Death of a partner
Death of a classmate or colleague
Serious illness of a loved one
Relationship breakup
Death of a family member

Subtle Types of Loss

Leaving home
Illness/loss of health
Death of a pet
Job change
Moving to a new home
Graduation from school
Loss of a physical ability
Loss of financial security

Coping with Grief

Each one of us has an individual style of coping with painful experiences. Use this list to generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief:

Talk to family or friends
Seek counseling
Read poetry or books
Engage in social activities
Exercise
Eat healthy
Seek spiritual support
Take time to relax
Join a support group
Listen to music
Be patient with yourself
Let yourself grieve

Normal Grief Reactions

Feeling like you are “going crazy”
Difficulty concentrating
Sadness or depression
Irritability or anger (at the deceased, oneself, others, higher powers)
Frustration or feeling misunderstood
Anxiety, nervousness or fearfulness
Feeling like you want to “escape”
Guilt or remorse
Ambivalence
Feeling numb
Lack of energy and motivation